You're out in the dating scene and it's like being on one of those reality shows where you're trying not to get voted off - but in this case it's your date deciding whether or not you get to move on with her - cue the commercial break and we'll find out what happens next!

If you follow the 3 tips below you increase your chances exponentially that you will have fun and be that guy that keeps progressing along to the boyfriend zone.

It's an overlooked thing that most guys miss when they're just "winging it" with women - but you have to start with a lady that is really interested.

Hey, I'm all about trying my luck and going out on dates to practice but if you really want to ensure that your dates are relaxing and fun then don't ask women out that aren't all about going out with you.

You've had those types of women before - the ones where you can literally "feel the heat" of her interest as she made it SO EASY to get her # and get a date with her as opposed to the girl that seemed to be half-enthused when you asked and ultimately called for a date.

It's all degrees of love - I call it INTEREST LEVEL in my dating relationship education course called THE SYSTEM - a woman that has 85% INTEREST LEVEL is going to be easier to get into the 90's (the boyfriend zone) because she starts out thinking you're the dude - as opposed the woman with 55% who figures "well, he seems nice enough, let's see what happens" and then you get knocked out of the box on date 3 because she finds a guy that pops her in the 87% range.

Isn't it more fun when she starts out way into you?

Do not get caught up in whether you're scoring points or not.

I know you like her but if she feels that you're pressuring her in any fashion then you will be OUT.

I get that you want her to be your girlfriend at some point but you can't rush anything so you might as well just chill and laugh as much as you can because ultimately she will either like you or she won't - but you can certainly move towards the "won't" category by being uptight about whether or not things are progressing in your favor with her.

Women respond to MYSTERY and CHALLENGE so do not be that guy that she thinks she has all figured out on date 3 - be that guy that is having fun, showing her a good time and having her think at the end of the date: "Wow, I'd like to see him again - I wonder if he will call."

"Oh, I don't/won't/can't sell Doc - what are you talking about - I thought this was a dating column???!!!"

Gotta call you out on that one guy - just because you don't have "account manager" or "marketing consultant" or any other # of titles related to sales in your day job description DOES NOT mean you don't sell - you sell every day - because you're a human being.

Whether you know it or not you "sold" your current boss on hiring you at some point - and you "sold" your mom on the idea that it was okay to go to that great party campus 150 miles from home.

We are always trying to convince someone of something that works in our favor - even if it's just selling your best bud on the idea that there are more women at the sports bar down the street than he thinks there are.

Dating is no different my friend, you have to "sell her" on the idea that you are the boyfriend for her - that is if she's worth it.

All great salespeople do 3 things:

1. They don't take rejection personally - because there is a lot of it!

2. They keep records of what they did right and wrong and continually learn from their mistakes and make modifications based on the knowledge they accumulate.

3. They never give up and approach every new sale as a new beginning instead of being embittered by the sales they didn't make.

You have to adopt this mindset and not get all wrapped up in this girl - which I know is difficult if you really like her but if great salespeople can do it, so can you.

Remember that at the end of the day you don't need her as much as the salesperson needs to eat - because if they don't make the sale they don't get paid - you just get your ego bruised a little bit!

Also, the more prospects (women) you have in the hopper, the better - it makes you less anxious to "get the deal done" with any one girl.

You can lay back, relax, have fun and not worry about what Leah does or does not do on Thursday night because you have a date with the beautiful Brooke on Saturday night.

The less anxious you are about any one date the better!

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