September, 2017 | Doc Love - Dating Advice For Men - Part 3

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TWO LOVES OF HER LIFE???

​So he is the love of her life but so was some other guy.  Huh?  How could she have TWO loves of her life?  Oh man, this reader needs some SERIOUS HELP!

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READER'S QUESTION

Hey Doc,

I’m in a very tough situation, and I hope you can help.

I’ve been with Erica for a long time. We met 13 years ago when I was 19 and she was 18. She basically picked me up, we were intimate the first night, and we got very close for three months until I had to go back to college. We remained friends. When we were apart we each had other partners, but when we were together it was real love. I felt like we were always close spiritually and loved each other.

Erica got married when she was 26, and had a son who is now five. The marriage lasted only two years, then she met another guy who she called the love of her life, but couldn’t stay with him for various reasons. She moved back to Minnesota, where I live, a year ago. We started talking, then became intimate again but on a higher level this time. She got pregnant, but we lost the baby. Now she’s pregnant again with my daughter.

Doc, there have been Loyalty and faithfulness issues with Erica in the past. She cheated on her exes, sometimes with me. I know because Erica and I are very good friends and we talk openly about everything. Now I’m basically her husband without being legally married. I support her and my stepson financially – rent, bills, allowances, you name it. I told her that once this relationship started I had to have her complete Loyalty. She told me I did, but sometimes I feel like I don’t.

Now Erica has gone on vacation to the city where she lived with the love of her life (he still lives there). She will be there for a whole month. This is very hard for me. I can’t go with her because of my job. I feel almost sure that she will be intimate with him or someone else when she’s there. She’s promised me that if she does, she will tell me. But I’m not okay with it. This to me is one of the most disloyal things a woman can do to a man, especially since I’m paying for the vacation, I support her and her son, and she’s pregnant with my daughter.

How do I handle this thing? Part of me wants to say I’m done with her, another part says ride it out. Erica does take very good care of me and pampers me. I don’t know for sure if she will cheat on me, but I feel like she will. Why would a woman do this to a man?

Dale - who has good reason not to trust her


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DOC LOVE'S ANSWER

Hi Dale,

Wait a minute here. You say that when you and Erica were apart you had other partners, but when you were together it was real love. Dude, real love means there are other NO OTHER PARTNERS! To you Psych majors, real love is exclusive.

Now let me get this straight. First you tell me that you’re the love of Erica’s life, and then you tell me she has another love of her life? How is that possible? Doesn’t “love of your life” imply only one person?

How could you and Erica be intimate on a higher level? If you’d been intimate on a higher level, it would have meant that you two would have gotten married. So you didn’t go to a higher level, Dale. You’re actually on the same exact level you were on when you first met. It might have been a higher level in your mind, but in reality, nothing changed.

Why don't you have The System yet?  It's THE definitive book on dating and relationships from a MAN'S point of view.  I've interviewed THOUSANDS of women asking them why they CHOOSE to stay with one man versus another and what I've LEARNED from women I TEACH to men.  

I’m very sorry that you and Erica lost a baby. Losing a baby had to have a terrible effect on Erica’s mind, besides the fact that she wasn’t married to you and was having a baby out of wedlock. But aren’t you and she practicing birth control? Now she’s pregnant again. Where is the Self-Control in this relationship, guy?

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Hi Garry,

 

As soon as you began having trouble with your wife, you didn’t have “The System” overnighted to you (or buy my immediate downloads - ELECTRONIC SYSTEM or SYSTEM AUDIO). Why not? Do you realize the terrible anguish you could have saved yourself? All that time Donatella’s interest was going from 90%...to 88%...to 85%...to 82%, etc. And as most American men do, you noticed it finally when it hit 60% or 57% or somewhere in that area. “The System” says that this woman probably once loved you. You’ve been with her for 15 years, and she probably loved you for eight to 10 years of that time. After that, because you took her for granted, her Interest Level began to drop.

 

And let me explain something to you. Interest Level doesn’t drop from 100% to 49% in an hour, or overnight, even though that’s the man’s perception of what’s going on. No, like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “It takes time and negligence to erode.” That’s why if you’d have memorized my materials, when it went from 91% to 89% you would have known to start getting into my MAINTENANCE PROGRAM, which will secure the woman wanting to stay with you forever. But like most men in America, you knew how to get her, but you didn’t know how to keep her. That’s why a majority of women recently reported in a national survey that they wouldn’t marry the same guy again. But since you didn’t have my book, what’s happened to you now is predictable.

 

You might have thought this situation was going to improve on its own, Garry, but when Interest Level goes 60%...58%..56%...54%, it’s like an airplane going down. It won’t pull up by itself. Like my cousin General Love says, “It just crashes and burns.” And that’s what happened with your wife. You murdered her Interest Level through your deportment.

 

So when your relationship with Donatella took another dive, why didn’t you Google a love doctor for some advice? The question to ask was, why is this woman so turned off when for eight or 10 years she idolized me? Dude, a good salary and taking care of your family financially doesn’t equate to romance to a female.

 

Your wife had been showing you for a long time that you were miles apart. Did she really have to verbalize it and tell you she no longer loved you? You’ve been with her for a long time, and when she finally said it after a deterioration of five or six years, it was only then that you sat up and took notice? Are you blind? And to you Psych majors, when she tells you that she no longer loves you, you are OUT.

 

Now let me explain something else to you. When Interest Level consistently drops, it’s NEVER temporary. It’s only temporary until she leaves. Then it’s final,

 

Now you’re in a fatal depression, pal. If you’d been studying my book all along, it would have made the pain more bearable. So the first thing you have to do now is have “The System” OVERNIGHTED to you and MEMORIZE it (or get an immediate download - SYSTEM AUDIO or ELECTRONIC SYSTEM). Because when it comes to women, you are absolutely clueless, even after you’ve lived with this woman for so long. Garry, I know more about your wife than you do and I’ve never even met the woman. And that’s very sad.

 

Then, like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “You have to suck it up.” When Donatella calls, be polite, don’t talk about your relationship, ask her how much money she needs, send her a check and ask her if there’s anything more you can do for her. Maybe, with time, she’ll meet you for coffee, then maybe a dinner date, then maybe you’ll move into getting her back into the house. Try to talk to your kids as much as possible. You’ll have to apologize for blowing up and making a fool of yourself because when you did that, it only reinforced your wife’s low Interest Level. Because what she said to herself was that she didn’t realize that her husband was so lacking in Self-Control!

 

But no matter what, you still need my book. You need to find out where you went wrong with your wife. Like I said earlier, you’re clueless.

 

Whether or not Donatella has found someone else is beyond your control. So don’t make the problem even worse than it is. Get “The System,” study it like heck, and we’ll do our best to get her back.

 

Donatella didn’t throw away anything over nothing. You stopped romancing your wife and took her for granted. You never told her she was Beautiful. You didn’t treat her like a woman. If you did, she would still be all over you.

 

Remember, guys: to keep your wife in love with you, you have to date her.

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